How To Care For Your Inner Dialogue

If someone spoke to you the way you speak to yourself, what would happen?

You would probably get angry with him, thinking that he is an unfair and rude person.

Why do we try so hard to be respected by others? And why do we put so little effort into earning our own respect?

One of the things that has most improved my serenity and my quality of life is realizing the way I talk to myself.

I am a very demanding person with myself, to the point of martyring, getting angry and insulting myself when I make a mistake.

But that only fuels my frustration and sends me into a spiral of negativity.

Your world is colored by the color of your thoughts.

Positive thoughts, positive feelings. Negative thoughts, negative feelings.

I slowly began to recognize these thoughts and the patterns that invoke them, and I tried to stop and realize that I was being unfair to myself and that I don’t deserve this treatment.

These are some examples of thoughts I have substituted:

• I want to die → I feel overwhelmed.
• I’m shit, I can’t do this → It’s a challenge, it’s normal to feel intimidated.
• They won’t like me → Not everyone has to like me, my personality is valid as it is.
• How could I have forgotten this → It is difficult to manage so many things, I can improve my organization.
• Why does this happen to me → This can be an opportunity for my personal growth.

Your body doesn’t know how to lie to you. Your mind lies to you all the time.

In addition to my thoughts, I also pay a lot of attention to my body sensation.

How you interpret your body sensation defines your emotions. For example, when your heart rate increases, it could be interpreted as nervousness or excitement. Two very different states.

Another trick that I have learned over time is not to pay too much attention to my thoughts or make important decisions when it is late at night, when I am angry, tired or sad.

In those states, we are not 100% ourselves and we do not think clearly. And at least in my case, this is when these types of self-destructive thoughts appear the most.

It’s a daily job. Your internal dialogue is not going to improve overnight. But if you pay attention to it and take care of it, you will notice a big difference very soon in your internal state.

In summary:

• Little by little replace your self-destructive thoughts with constructive thoughts.
• Pay more attention to your bodily sensations and less to your thoughts.
• Don’t pay too much attention to your thoughts when it’s late, angry, tired or sad.

How do you manage your internal dialogue? Has something like this ever happened to you? I read you in the comments!